"She" was given to me when my children were about 3, 5, and 7.
The purple things hanging from her hair, neck, wrist, and foot are babies.
With a coy look on her face and sound in her voice, my lifelong girlfriend said to me, “Sometimes I just don’t like them.” She was talking about her daughters who were about 13 and 8. It was 1990 or so, and I was single with no kids… and dumbfounded.
“Mommy, who do you like best? Me, right!”I’m happy to say that this is not a question I hear, although, they might “think” it sometimes. Yes, I heard it a few times, playfully, when my three girls were in elementary school, but not now as a tween and two teens.
Sometimes I wonder why not. Anyone who has two or more children knows that they are individual and capable of displaying every emotion, causing Mom and Dad to do the same. And when a positive emotion is bestowed upon one kid and a not-so-positive emotion relegated upon another, how do you limit the sibling rivalry and keep all hell from breaking loose?
Okay, they’re not that bad.
My girls have similarities in some areas of their personalities; no problem responding there; i.e., similar advice and reactions for all. It’s the contrasts that require calmness and strategy. (Did I say calmness, that everlasting work in progress?)
Anyway, I’m dealing with full blown hormones, hormones upon the horizon, whining, giddiness, academic overachievement, academic underachievement, social butterflies, homebodies, queen bees (forced to work under duress), worker bees (when they want something), comedians, criers, sarcasm, wit, Chatty Cathys, mimes, singers, dancers, loud eaters, perfectionists, slow pokes, Speedy Gonzaleses, feistiness, huggers, non-huggers, lip kissers, “only on my forehead!” kissers, ETC!AAAAAAAAAAAHH!
I experience variations of these emotions and actions from ALL three kids… E-V-E-R-Y D-A-Y.
It is NOT possible to treat them all the same and to LIKE them equally at all times.
What IS possible, is to LOVE them at all times and UNCONDITIONALLY.
Can you love all your children equally? What about liking them? I’d like to hear thoughts from parents of one child, and non-parents, too. Perhaps you’ll reflect on “your” childhoods.