tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post9056316350170562148..comments2023-10-30T08:16:14.025-04:00Comments on Just Curious: Allowance, Chores, RewardsAnitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-68952208198354431972010-10-05T11:06:00.645-04:002010-10-05T11:06:00.645-04:00We have six---they don't get an allowance beca...We have six---they don't get an allowance because I couldn't afford it!! I don't pay them to do basic chores such as pick up their own stuff, but if they want to earn a little extra money, I find things they can do. I do reward them with money (not a great deal, but something) for good grades. I think it's a good incentive to work harder.andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07352095306978900248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-59315892731840979882010-09-27T15:00:14.225-04:002010-09-27T15:00:14.225-04:00My twins are only 4, so I can't expect too muc...My twins are only 4, so I can't expect too much just yet. ANd honestly it's good to read other more seasoned parents' thoughts on this to help prepare me! I got a small allowance when I was younger, but I was a very good girl and I really did do as I was asked, and often without being reminded...I hope that is how my girls end up...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214914707096410664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-11412695078693889002010-09-26T14:19:30.159-04:002010-09-26T14:19:30.159-04:00My sister-in-law definitely gets the prize in our ...My sister-in-law definitely gets the prize in our family. She tells her kids from an early age, "Go get a job and buy it yourself!" And you know what, they do! (And she doesn't pay them for around the house stuff either. Says she doesn't get paid for it why should they.) Her two grown kids are the hardest workers I've ever seen and her teenage daughter is on the honor roll, works at a pizza place, and plays soccer most evenings!<br /><br />Cheers!<br />Julie<br /><a href="http://juliemagerssoulen.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Julie Magers Soulen Photography</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11773042400899326514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-63026397452533825672010-09-23T19:00:40.522-04:002010-09-23T19:00:40.522-04:00In my day you either did your chores or you were n...In my day you either did your chores or you were not allowed to go anywhere or do anything with friends. I think that might serve our youngsters well now days as it's a real world out there and the sooner they learn a good work ethic the better. Guess I was one of those mean moms but things got done and there was no whining or backtalk and yes he got an allowance. When I hear kids ranting at their parents at the mall or where ever I just cringe, it's not doing them any good by allowing them to have such disrespect.<br /><br />Excellent post BTW!Midlife Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03531655128417397650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-61507518835043604992010-09-22T20:11:08.928-04:002010-09-22T20:11:08.928-04:00Oh that old chestnut...chores. Ugh. Every year I...Oh that old chestnut...chores. Ugh. Every year I try and pick a day of the week that works for the kids to do their weekly chores, then they all do them at the same time and get it over with. It also cuts down on the nagging. This year's chore day? TBA! My teenagers all have jobs now so it's more about squeezing the chores in, which as members of a family I feel strongly that they do, to contribute. Until my kids get a job that pays enough to keep them in ipods and name-brand hoodies, we give a weekly allowance that is paid when the chores are done - and not before. Their allowances have never been big amounts, just some fun money for saving (and learning about managing their money a bit) or spending on little things, like treats. I also will request help around the house for big jobs like cleaning out cupboards because, like you, I just don't have time to do these chores by myself all the time. It's an ongoing struggle and I admit I cave often, but my husband will often come home and 'motivate' the kids to help more with the argument that because we drive them around to their activities, which we also pay for, they should darn well help more around the house.<br />Good luck, and keep trying!Rebecca S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16409572371302109142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-46207092208411535582010-09-21T20:20:08.898-04:002010-09-21T20:20:08.898-04:00hello hello hello!!! wherever you are!!!? you are ...hello hello hello!!! wherever you are!!!? you are greatly missed in this blogging world!! Hurry on back now! xo<br />claireClaire Gibson Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15812365654339042892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-76779916626920140352010-09-21T16:15:18.521-04:002010-09-21T16:15:18.521-04:00I'm all about responsibility as being part of ...I'm all about responsibility as being part of the family. I know I've only been a teacher and not a parent, but I really think the same principles apply. One thing I said to my students was Hebrews 13:17. "Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you."<br /><br />And I would say, so NOW you're being a burden to me. Tell me, are you enjoying this? Cause I can go on and on, or you cold just go ahead and do it the first time. <br />And then after that I would just have to say, "Seriously? You want to be a burden to me?" And they would hop into line.<br /><br />Personally, I don't know that they WILL ever do everything the first time or without being asked - do we?<br /><br />It's sin nature, it's training, it's hormones - our job is to NOT STOP EXPECTING.<br /><br />personal opinion. :)Sohailahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07705675992572434472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-8818193878074005552010-09-21T10:43:02.472-04:002010-09-21T10:43:02.472-04:00I don't know how you pull if off every time yo...I don't know how you pull if off every time you write a blog but Anita you really bring out simple things from our everyday life in a wonderful manner.... <br />I threaten to become grumpy and stop talking to them.. LOL.<br />My daughter is moody and nothing can move her when she is in off mode but my son is amazing young man who never troubled me about anything.<br />If only he could put in a bit more hard word towards his studies...Chapters From My Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905577212056834284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-72949352811386843152010-09-21T03:29:54.425-04:002010-09-21T03:29:54.425-04:00My mom rewarded us with money. Allowance for chore...My mom rewarded us with money. Allowance for chores, rewards for doing well in school, etc. It seems to me though that we learned how to work just hard enough to get paid, then stop, which isn't a work ethic I care to continue. It may work for other parents who enforce things differently, though.Michelle Schraudnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09853442595359644884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-12999979021826036982010-09-20T11:04:07.362-04:002010-09-20T11:04:07.362-04:00I always felt that we are all a family, and there&...I always felt that we are all a family, and there's no reason we don't pitch in and keep the ship running together. My children had chores always, and I also gave them a small allowance mostly as a way to learn to manage and understand their own $$.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-22571422401469619362010-09-18T23:46:58.307-04:002010-09-18T23:46:58.307-04:00I don't connect chores and allowance. She'...I don't connect chores and allowance. She's expected to do chores because she lives here. She gets an allowance so she can learn to budget and manage her money. She gets 100 dollars a month, but has to buy her own clothes, shampoo, makeup...almost everything except food. <br /><br />She's 17, though.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12573262524755768643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-31121117927642772342010-09-16T21:04:50.777-04:002010-09-16T21:04:50.777-04:00I am no help!! I had a very hard time with my two ...I am no help!! I had a very hard time with my two daughters (grown now). I finally gave up a just shut their doors. I did make them empty the dishwasher and do other things. If I had to do it over they would have chores to do every week period. It's so hard to know what to do. Good luck!!gaylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00894920637532415315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-91662878899159210782010-09-16T17:07:54.647-04:002010-09-16T17:07:54.647-04:00We have a points system for: (in no particular ord...We have a points system for: (in no particular order) politeness, cleaning teeth, doing homework, getting up promptly, reading not playing on \ds and for being helpful in the house.Points are taken off if any of these are not done and when so many points are achieved she gets a treat - a trip to cinema, or a bar of chocolate maybe - and this seems to do the trick!It worked with my son who is grown up now and pretty tidy and organised in his own home!dineyhttp://oldermumsarefun.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-7192545436357892682010-09-16T17:07:31.788-04:002010-09-16T17:07:31.788-04:00We have a points system for: (in no particular ord...We have a points system for: (in no particular order) politeness, cleaning teeth, doing homework, getting up promptly, reading not playing on \ds and for being helpful in the house.Points are taken off if any of these are not done and when so many points are achieved she gets a treat - a trip to cinema, or a bar of chocolate maybe - and this seems to do the trick!It worked with my son who is grown up now and pretty tidy and organised in his own home!dineyhttp://oldermumsarefun.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-86617186453476924582010-09-15T22:28:05.026-04:002010-09-15T22:28:05.026-04:00Kaishon does 1 or 2 things a day. I need to start ...Kaishon does 1 or 2 things a day. I need to start giving him allowance. I keep forgetting all the stuff moms need to do : (Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874897254332872367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-4813626600581314042010-09-14T11:31:05.783-04:002010-09-14T11:31:05.783-04:00Honestly, I'm not too sure how we did in this ...Honestly, I'm not too sure how we did in this area when the kids were little. I'm assuming at least okay since there's no glaring memories of this. I'm pretty sure we had mixed results, but they turned out fine and aren't considered lazy as young adults now.Just Plain Tiredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17370008595700891854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-28459287731905221132010-09-13T15:00:19.425-04:002010-09-13T15:00:19.425-04:00Only my youngest, who is 10, gets allowance, and i...Only my youngest, who is 10, gets allowance, and it's peanuts.<br /><br />I do pay them for certain cash-worthy jobs like waxing or vacuuming a car for instance. <br /><br />They have certain chores that they own. No video games/ipod/computer/TV until they're done. They're (surprisingly) pretty good about it, but yeah, they are no Martha Stewart!Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853360875281742784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-86505218824239092172010-09-13T10:38:49.856-04:002010-09-13T10:38:49.856-04:00Just as Midlife Jobhunter said, my kids were expec...Just as Midlife Jobhunter said, my kids were expected to take part in the chores simply because this was their home too and everyone had a responsibility to maintain their share. <br /><br />Allowance had nothing to do with chores. Of course, reminders were often required but unless they were ill or something really important came up, they were expected to do their chores within reasonable time. <br /><br />My older son is 23 and has just bought his own home.. and understands what's required to care for it. My younger one, 20, still lives at home and is there much of the time without me, while I'm off gallivanting to the cottage. My house isn't in <i>great</i> shape when I come home, but neither is it disturbing. He does alright on his own. <br /><br />Essentially it's not only about sharing the load, but preparing them to shoulder it themselves one day.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-57674886658070153232010-09-13T00:20:32.643-04:002010-09-13T00:20:32.643-04:00Midlife Jobhunter said...
My kids had to part...Midlife Jobhunter said...<br /><br /> My kids had to participate in chores simply because they were a member of a family. And when a member of something, you help out. Period. (of course they still argued that the garbage could be taken out tomorrow as well as today. That never changes.)<br /><br /> They received an allowance that wasn't related to their chores. The amount consisted of 1/2 their age per week. So, the five year old got $2.50. Of that, half, $1.25, had to go into the credit union. By the time the older two were 20 and 18, they took that allowance savings - then $3000, and bought a Eurail pass, hostel membership, and spent 5 weeks in Europe. (My husband and I used miles to get them to Paris and back.)<br /><br /> Youngest boy looking for a traveling partner summer after next.<br /><br /> But the chore part - absolutely have to take part. Especially when both parents working or singe parent household. How else will they learn what it takes to live when all participate. Makes all feel they are contributing.<br /><br /> And here ends this epistle....Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-33510921623815121072010-09-13T00:16:29.401-04:002010-09-13T00:16:29.401-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-4758972807790407432010-09-12T22:38:06.023-04:002010-09-12T22:38:06.023-04:00I was just talking about you with Ann King (had di...I was just talking about you with Ann King (had dinner with her and Don on Saturday). Anyway, we haven't gotten to the chores yet; Mo and Co are still a little young. Still, they have to clear their own places after each meal, they have to put their clothes in the hamper every night and pick up after themselves. Of course, there are times when I employ the "If you want something done right. . " method of things. That's my type A coming out. <br /><br />I'm sure I had an allowance and I'm sure I earned money for chores, but ultimately, I did them because that's what my parents expected and I'm sure a neatik. As for first time obedience, *sigh* I'm still waiting. . .let me know if it's possible.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10047619856144475098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-50504888062560266252010-09-12T14:29:31.101-04:002010-09-12T14:29:31.101-04:00My kids are four and two so they still want to hel...My kids are four and two so they still want to help most of the time. When they don't pick up their toys, I say "It's going in the trash can!" and that usually works. Someday, I will actually have to throw something away to prove a point. <br /><br />I give my oldest spare change when he does extra jobs. I am taking notes on all you say, because I know things will change significantly in a few years.Nancy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313721217543578257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-51701113707744190832010-09-12T05:10:29.734-04:002010-09-12T05:10:29.734-04:00There are as many methods as there are parents, An...There are as many methods as there are parents, Anita. The ones that work the best seem to begin the earliest in kids' lives and certainly are the most consistent.<br /><br />I believe that everyone lives in the same house; everyone contributes. Allowances? Uh-uh. My goal was a 15-20 minute chore every day of the week, having them keep their rooms tidy all the time, and lending a hand with something extra sometimes on the weekend.<br /><br />The mantra around me was, if everyone gets stuff done, then we can all have plenty of time for fun.<br /><br />My kids also had expensive extracurricular activities and they did not have to pay for those.People Who Know Me Would Say:https://www.blogger.com/profile/04621641188403948733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-77507288893696106752010-09-11T19:33:50.040-04:002010-09-11T19:33:50.040-04:00I choose #2 and no allowance here either. Sorry I...I choose #2 and no allowance here either. Sorry I don't have any enlightenment on the subject since I need to improve myself. When I taught school, I was very consistent, had to be, and had good control over my classroom. I don't know what happens to me when I get home. Guess I get just a little too relaxed. The only hope I have is that my oldest child has somehow managed to grow up to be a very responsible girl, works hard, studies hard, etc. Keeping my fingers crossed for the next two. <br />I didn't deserve that nice comment you made on my blog, but it certainly made my day!! Sometimes it's hard to see the beauty in your own belongings. That was wonderful affirmation for me. <br />Have a happy weekend!Tammy @BeatriceBankshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08340198138320633828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-34755844052200071772010-09-11T19:18:05.639-04:002010-09-11T19:18:05.639-04:00BRAVO!
Have a pretty day!
KristinBRAVO! <br />Have a pretty day! <br />KristinBring Pretty Backhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11809961135225963623noreply@blogger.com