tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post9088014764656334841..comments2023-10-30T08:16:14.025-04:00Comments on Just Curious: Little White LiesAnitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-2570037360108398522010-08-04T22:31:32.410-04:002010-08-04T22:31:32.410-04:00I try not too. In the case of the discount, I wou...I try not too. In the case of the discount, I would try to get the discount for both preservation kits but do it honestly through negotiation (this actually works well in many cases). <br /><br />A couple years ago I got home from a store and realized I wasn't charged enough for my bill. I called the store up (hoping they'd say just keep it since it was their mistake) and they said "thank you" and put the rest I owed then onto my debit card. At least I knew I did the right thing, even if it did cost me.Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12652107321069740503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-57100639913413881832010-06-24T21:44:23.219-04:002010-06-24T21:44:23.219-04:00You always come up with the most interesting and t...You always come up with the most interesting and thought provoking topics! It's been most interesting reading your words and the words of all those that have commented.Annie Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13511943107737624183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-64578907082276770142010-06-16T20:29:08.330-04:002010-06-16T20:29:08.330-04:00Very interesting topic to consider. I really try ...Very interesting topic to consider. I really try to keep my conscience as clear as possible because I'm pretty sensitive and will only hurt myself if I am not at peace about what I have done or not done. That being said, there have been times when I have bent the truth a little in order to be 'nice'. And let's face it - sometimes others force us to tell little lies because they just won't listen to the truth.Rebecca S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16409572371302109142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-7698786011031841362010-06-16T17:32:36.062-04:002010-06-16T17:32:36.062-04:00Difficult because we all find we need to tell litt...Difficult because we all find we need to tell little white lies at times to save feelings from getting hurt, and it is not always easy to explain that moral code to a child, but parenting is never easy! And that's no lie!dineyhttp://oldermumsarefun.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-88993718995200733992010-06-16T11:59:20.415-04:002010-06-16T11:59:20.415-04:00ABBY - I agree. I think it is good for the kids to...ABBY - I agree. I think it is good for the kids to see honesty and to not put such a high value on money and material things at the cost of lying. Relatives do tend to interfere and send mixed messages. But, I guess we continue to put it in the teachable moment category.<br /><br />I ignore the phone a LOT too, but I "never" tell my kids to say I'm not home if one of them just happens to answer it before I can say "Don't answer it!"<br /><br />Thanks for adding to this very interestion conversation.<br /><br />FOLLOWERS AND READERS, MORE STORIES?Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-14179621306322822342010-06-16T11:43:15.294-04:002010-06-16T11:43:15.294-04:00I ignore the phone. A lot. I don't consider ...I ignore the phone. A lot. I don't consider it lying. I consider it being truthful, actually, as in, "I honestly don't want to talk on the phone right now".<br /><br />Other than that, though, I try to always be truthful. The wedding dress thing and the kids' buffet thing, I couldn't do. <br /><br />Once, we were at a small amusement park place with my snobby father-in-law. He wanted us to say one of our kids was younger, so we could get cheaper tickets. Not only was I offended, but he suggested it right in front of our kids. It turned out good, though, because both my husband and I said no way we would do that, so a good thing for the kids to see I suppose.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853360875281742784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-67963898785137313982010-06-16T11:04:25.410-04:002010-06-16T11:04:25.410-04:00GAYLE, PERFECTLY, SUZICATE, BETTY, CATHY - You'...GAYLE, PERFECTLY, SUZICATE, BETTY, CATHY - You've all left more interesting comments. :)<br /><br />I think we all avoid the phone sometimes. I just tell my kids not to answer it instead of answering it and telling the caller I'm not home.<br /><br />For those of you who still have kids at home, good luck, best wishes, God bless you...all of the above!<br /><br />Thanks SUZICATE for the personal compliment. That means a lot to me.<br /><br />BETTY, I'll head over to your blog to find my surprise. :)<br /><br />FOLLOWERS AND READERS, KEEP THOSE COMMENTS COMIN'Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-68015427136522791242010-06-16T01:11:28.532-04:002010-06-16T01:11:28.532-04:00Hello Anita
Out with friends not long ago there wa...Hello Anita<br />Out with friends not long ago there was a cheaper entry price for Seniors and one of them (grey haired) just nodded when asked for that amount as an admission price. I had to look theother way but if the truth be told Tellers always know whats what and will turn a blind eye - unless you are really being dishonest. <br />Now I actually think answering or not answering the phone is totally different - also choosing not to answer the door bell if you know who's there and would rather not. Some may see it as dishonest, I don't, its a choice I make as an adult. Similar to the days of being presented with a calling card and telling the butler 'Sorry I'm not at home'<br />Take care<br />CathyCathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09487589871746402154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-67619770286899018622010-06-15T21:56:04.580-04:002010-06-15T21:56:04.580-04:00I hate any kind of lie and even a white lie is har...I hate any kind of lie and even a white lie is hard for me to do.<br /><br />Check out my blog tomorrow. There´s something for you there.Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-22905280117493990542010-06-15T11:04:05.736-04:002010-06-15T11:04:05.736-04:00Fabulous post. I think lying eats us alive with gu...Fabulous post. I think lying eats us alive with guilt. I hate even little white lies like "yes, you look fabulous"...however, I'm such a terrible liar that my friend will laugh and tell me she knows I'm lying to just try and help her put her outfit together or help her pick out a new one. I've evnen tried diverting attention if I don't want to answer a question to avoid hurting someone's feelings...maybe I need classes on this. You did the right thing. I could not have lied to get a discount and it is important to teach your children by example. You are a wonderful mother and person.SuziCatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04025931724313344438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-40246911794472131212010-06-15T01:24:56.769-04:002010-06-15T01:24:56.769-04:00I suppose it counts as a little white lie when som...I suppose it counts as a little white lie when someone asks you if you like their shoes and you say yes, when in reality you don't. I guess you could "play attorney" and say "Those are very interesting!" Hmmm... Lying has been a huge topic of discussion in our house lately with the 15 year old making us ultra sensitive to anything even resembling a lie. I hear "I'm just kidding!" a LOT now.Just Two Chickshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17588015393799661678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-20511414397127907932010-06-14T21:18:54.940-04:002010-06-14T21:18:54.940-04:00Thank you for this post!! It made me stop and thin...Thank you for this post!! It made me stop and think....when I tell my grandson that Target is closed and it really isn't......I shouldn't be telling him a lie because it is teaching him to lie!gaylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00894920637532415315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-11867476333164076252010-06-14T12:35:57.155-04:002010-06-14T12:35:57.155-04:00Hello EVERYONE, Thanks as always for the GOOD answ...Hello EVERYONE, Thanks as always for the GOOD answers and opinions!<br /><br />I added a footnote to the post because of TRACEY'S comment. I may have unintentionally expanded the definition of "little white lie." I thought small lies were included if the participants felt that no one gets hurt, but perhaps it only applies when kindness is involved.<br />I don't know.<br />Either way, I'm happy about the comments you all have left, and hope to get more on the subject.<br /><br />THANKS!<br /><br />M O R E P L E A S E!Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-78771588142899567442010-06-13T21:24:24.595-04:002010-06-13T21:24:24.595-04:00I do this sometimes, especially when I'm tryin...I do this sometimes, especially when I'm trying to be "creative" with explanations to the kids about they why's of certain things. I know it's not right and I should make more of an effort to properly explain things, but sometimes I feel like a deer caught in the headlights when they throw these questions at me when I least expect them.Buckeroomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02408502555249594576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-23595399727586524942010-06-13T21:20:12.189-04:002010-06-13T21:20:12.189-04:00I thought one told white lies to spare other's...I thought one told white lies to spare other's feelings. As in, "What do you think of my new dress?" and you say the hideously unflattering creation is "a nice color." <br /><br />Or deflect questions, the answers to which are really none of the asker's business. As in, "So, why haven't you had any kids yet?" And you say, "Oh, we are just enjoying being married right now," when really you are desperate to get pregnant but can't.<br /><br />I think the examples you gave are just flat out lies. Taking the discount on the preservation kit would have harmed the company and benefited you. That employee should be ashamed.<br /><br />The buffet probably didn't hurt the company any, and they didn't ask. So this is a little more vague. But it would set a bad example for the twelve year old.<br /><br />The no ticket thing, I think is a pass. I don't think the employee cared if you had tickets. They were just being generous.<br /><br />Having said that, I once left a Walmart with a hair brush I did not see during self-check-out. The place was packed on a weekend, so I told myself that I would come back on a Tuesday and pay for it. Then when I got home, I found the hair brush I thought I had lost while traveling, and was trying to replace with the "stolen" brush.<br /><br />So then I had a dilemma. I had to return a brush to the store that I no longer needed, but did not pay for. How could I "return" it at customer service? I thought about just sneaking it back in the store and putting it back on the shelf but was worried I would get busted for shop lifting. In the end, I kept it. Even though I am sure I could have found a way to return it.<br /><br />I don' think this was a white lie either, but it seems in the spirit of the thing.<br /><br />And to Menopausal New Mom's comment, nothing says you have to answer your phone just because you are home.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17502168917372783418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-20980029183247214062010-06-13T19:53:59.013-04:002010-06-13T19:53:59.013-04:00Good topic Anita - as my daughter is still only th...Good topic Anita - as my daughter is still only three I've not had to think about this really up to now, but I think we do have to set a good example to our children and not do the "wrong" thing and be honest in our relationships and transactions. I guess the exception I will try and teach my daughter is when telling a white lie is a kindness to another person - if a friend is sick and you say for example you look better today, to perk them up.One Photohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05793386254564806126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-46463267515347460242010-06-13T18:10:54.017-04:002010-06-13T18:10:54.017-04:00Children learn what they live. The most dangerous...Children learn what they live. The most dangerous white lies are those we say without being conscious of them. <br /><br />I really applaud your efforts to be aware and cautious.People Who Know Me Would Say:https://www.blogger.com/profile/04621641188403948733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-29860994901664265812010-06-13T15:20:01.846-04:002010-06-13T15:20:01.846-04:00Good one Anita. I guess I will have to start cons...Good one Anita. I guess I will have to start considering what role model I want to be for my daughter.<br /><br />As for the "little white lies", I would probably have gone for the discount on the second preservation kit. My own opinion is that for the price of them, the $60 discount is reasonable. It's kind of like being offered the sale price on an item even though you are in the store a day or two before the sale begins. Personally I believe the stores are happy to have my business and if employees offer me a discount to ensure I am a repeat customer, I'm fine with that.<br /><br />As for the little white lies around my house, the closest I can come to that is ignoring the telephone when it rings because I don't feel like talking to anyone. It almost never fails, I finally get to have an hour to myself (if hubby takes our daughter somewhere) and as soon as I settle down on the couch to read/watch tv or whatever, the phone will ring. I ignore it believing that if it's an emergency they will call back. 9 times out of 10 it's one of my stepchildren anyway and I don't feel like making small talk during my very limited "me" time.<br /><br />I guess that even thought that makes me a terrible person, I'm a happy one after having a little time all to myself :)<br /><br />BTW - while reading this comment the phone rang and you guessed it! I ignored it!!!!Menopausal New Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01427085574473513923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-38666817108536687162010-06-13T14:30:47.984-04:002010-06-13T14:30:47.984-04:00I never could do this.Even though it's little...I never could do this.Even though it's little and white:)<br />Hope you're having a great day Anita.yoncahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05279848731673828058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-36399622096369759022010-06-13T13:09:15.004-04:002010-06-13T13:09:15.004-04:00As Christians, we try to always tell the truth. A...As Christians, we try to always tell the truth. And if we find we weren't quite accurate about something, we'll go back and make restitution for it. But I have a story from years ago before my Dear Hubby and I became Christians. We were young and wild and newly married and hardly had a penny to our names. We'd gone to a local Fred Meyer store to buy Dear Hubby a pair of shoes. In the transaction, the clerk gave us $10 too much in change. We noticed it right then, just kind of smiled at each other, and didn't say anything...just pocketed the change. It's funny, but when we became Christians that was one of the first restitutions that came to both our minds. I sat down and wrote a letter to Mr. Meyer, the founder of the store who was still alive at the time, and enclosed a check for $10, telling him the story behind the money. Not long after, we received a beautiful letter from him, thanking us for our honesty and how much it touched his heart. Any other restitution we've made thru the years has had similar results. In the end, "Honesty is the best policy".MissKrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12726021829363492972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5253987680038616859.post-46110629645604674662010-06-13T12:51:36.518-04:002010-06-13T12:51:36.518-04:00I am trying to break the habit of small lies, as I...I am trying to break the habit of small lies, as I recently got into the habit of saying I'm busy or sick when the truth is I don't want to attend a certain meeting/social event/etc. Once a lady gave me a large back of money in a bag rather than the magazine I purchased at a bookstore. And... she was too rude to take the bag back. I had to REALLY insist that she exchange the booty for my mag. And she never said thanks. But I felt better.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05913240698925025195noreply@blogger.com