"Your eggs are old."
This is what my mom told me in 1994 prior to leaving for my honeymoon; and again, during the first month of my marriage.
Mom and I have the kind of relationship where we can say things like this to each other. It's our attempt to add humor to subjects that are sometimes stressful.
Anyway, I won't go on and on about what happened to my eggs. Instead, I'll direct you to Cynthia's blog, "InSeason Mom." Click HERE to read my answers to a great set of questions composed by Cynthia. She and I, and many others had the so-called "old eggs" situation in common. She has also interviewed a few other women. It's the beginning of a sincere, informative, and thought provoking series.
While I've injected a little humor in this post, I am fully aware of the heartbreak that many women and men suffer in dealing with infertility. To you, I wish continued hope, success in any medical attention sought, and peace in making decisions about the future of your families.
17 comments:
That was a great interview - very informative, and nice to get to know a little more about you!
Loved your interview! Your kids are very lucky they have you at home :) We were talking about motherhood and age earlier today. I was comparing my "first child" experience to that of my friend who is in her thirties and just had her first child. I think she'll be able to offer her child way more as far as patience and understanding as he grows.
off to read it.
Be mentally prepared. Ha! I had my first baby at 35, almost 36, and two more after that. I was NOT mentally prepared.
You can read about getting up every two hours to feed your newborn, but until you have done it, you have NO IDEA what that tired feels like.
Add that to the fact that I had only been married for eight months and two and a half weeks when I had my first child. I was still reeling from my lack of mental preparedness for marriage.
That was almost seven years ago. The kids are still young (6, 4, and 2) and I am not getting any younger, but we have, all five of us, settled into it.
I'm going to read it now, but it is interesting. Having been married 25 days, at the ripe old age of 44, well... we shall see.
My doctor told me my hormone levels are normal, which is good.. however... we shall see...
Great interview, Anita. It was really interesting to see another perspective. I remember trying to conceive Morgan and having such a cavalier attitude. Stop the birth control and bam! you get pregnant. In hindsight, I can see that I was very fortunate to have conceived quickly and without difficulty. Certainly there's a difference between a teen mom, a late twenties mom and a late thirties mom, but in the end, they're all giving their kids the best experience THEIR experience has enabled them to do.
I'm hopping over. It is a heartbreaking situation to be in, but that's all the more reason to infuse a little humor in it to keep depression at bay.
That was a great interview, I went right over and read it. You were truly blessed to have three children as so many struggle to even have one. Sometimes I wonder why there are those that have babies so easily and can't even take care of them and then there are wonderful people who try so hard and can't seem to conceive. We have younger friends that finally adopted after years of trying and I am happy to say that they are thrilled with their children! My SIL and BIL went the IVF route and had triplets!!! They just started their first year of college! Where does time go?! Great post Anita!!
Great interview, Anita! Two of my SILs had their first babies at 40+. I had my first at 34... when my friends' kids were already in third grade and up.
I liked reading that Anita...all of us Moms have so much in common, despite when we had our children.
My sister struggled for 9 years. She is due in November:) Never give up!
Can't wait to hop over and read the interview! I struggled with infertility too. That's why my 3 kids are so far apart in ages. Had one in every decade, 20's, 30's and 40's. The 2nd and 3rd child were total surprises after giving up on all treatments. No more surprises for me, I hope!
Well Anita, you couldn't have written a post more suited to me if you had tried. My eggs weren't only old when I got married, I think I only had one left.
I mean seriously, I wouldn't have dared imagine becoming pregnant the first time at the age of 44 after years of being on the pill.
There is hope, I have a 5 year old to prove it.
I learned more about you, Anita! What a great interview!
A very enjoyable interview, and lovely to see a photo of you close up!
My first son finally came along after 4 years of trying to conceive. I was 32 at the time. His brother came along 3 years after. My mother was 38 when my sister was born and 42 when she had me... and that was 56 years ago. Kidlets come when they're ready. The hope is that the mom is ready at that same time. ;)
INFIRTILITY IS SO SAD..OLD EGGS ARE NOT IMPORTANT, WHAT IS, IS THAT THEY BECOME FEWER AS A WOMAN AGES.. AND THE RISK OF A PROBLEM IS HIGHER. I WAS THIRTY SIX YRS WHEN I DELIVERED MY LAST CHILD. I WAS TOLD I WAS TOO OLD TO BREAST FEED, BUT I DID.. ONLY NATURE AND GOD CAN WORK THOSE THINGS OUT. BLESSINGS TO YOU FROM OZ.
Wonderful interview!Love your answers, Anita!
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